The Pressure To Get Married: When Can I Bring Out My Agbádá? [guest post]

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  • Michelle

    People will always have their opinions and expectations but ultimately the only thing that truly matters is God’s timing. It’s funny because after the pressure of marriage is over, you now get the pressure of buying a house if you haven’t done so already or having children etc. So it’s really never ending lol that’s why trusting God and just waiting on His timing is truly needed-it’s not easy but it is so worth it x

    • Hi Michelle, the pressures from familiies are never ending. If it’s not one thing it’s another. I agree that we need to let go and let God.

    • Anu

      Hey girl, thank you for dropping a message on this post. I absolutely agree with what you are saying.

      Do you have any tips for those who have little faith on what they should do when it comes these types of pressures?

  • A Cup of CynTea☕️

    Really enjoyed reading this blog! It definitely felt like a response to my blog lol. I like how you gave examples of a toxic and a successful relationship comparing the Obama’s with Bobby and Whitney.
    Girls, the marriage pressure isn’t going to stop! But like you said Anu, we should use this time to live life by travelling, learning how to cook our traditional meals
    and doing things we enjoy lol.

    CynTea x

    • Anu

      Thank you so much for reading the blog CynTea. Can I just say I love your blog.

      Going forward, I really do think people should talk more about their pressures of things such as the topic in focus – it potentially can indirectly lead someone into depression. Particularly older women. I met someone yesterday actually; she said the only thing she has is her faith now. What about those who don’t believe?

      But yes, ladies and girls. Distract yourself with your hobbies and gifts. If you are thinking too hard about what your gifts and hobbies are – then its time to learn about yourself.

      • If I didn’t know myself, I could understand how the pressure to get married lead to depression. It’s so true what you say about faith and lack of. Without faith that God is in control, then it is probably even more difficult to understand or accept your marital status (or lack of).

    • It is clear that this is such a big topic in each of our circles. I have family and friends who are my age that are married. However, there are still a lot who are not. I agree that we should take time to know ourselves, live life as the best versions of ourselves until bae comes along and then grow together.

      • I think parents and guardians also need to understand there are consequences to their pressure. It’s hard because I don’t think they mean to do it intentionally.

        • I think parents/guardians should be more sensitive. For most of us we are a new generation of doing things differently – going to uni, travelling, entrepreneurs etc. So they should be more mindful that the times are changing.

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